I Will Blend In When...
In honor of what I call "Pride Season", which is the time of year when Pride Celebrations kick-off around the country, I'm really gearing up to celebrate all the pride I have for my GLBT community. I wanted to share this article with you that I wrote about a year ago when I was a blogger for AOL's QueerSighted.com. I wanted to let the GLBT community know that they should be proud of who they are, and to never let anyone tell them otherwise.
The article itself was inspired by something to someone once said to me, and I quote, "I wouldn't mind gay people if they would just blend in with the rest of the population. Why do they have to flaunt their sexuality?"
I took this statement home with me, I pondered it and it reverberated. I decided I had to write a response to this person, and to anyone else with this mentality, as it seems to come up a lot when people try to justify their "support" for the gay and lesbian community and assume we are "flaunting" our sexuality when in fact, we are just trying to be like any other normal human being; trying to achieve our dreams, hopes, ambitions and to have a life filled with love and happiness. And so to that person and to people everywhere, here is my response:
I will blend in when... I can walk down the street holding hands with my partner without being called a dyke.
I will blend in when... I don't live in fear of being fired from my job for being gay
I will blend in when... I never have to introduce my partner as a "friend" again
I will blend in when... people accept that homosexuality is not a choice
I will blend in when... people stop using religion as a weapon against me
I will blend in when... when gender is about the person and not about their chromosomes
I will blend in when... I can be at my partner's side in the hospital during an emergency and make the same decisions as a husband or a wife.
I will blend in when... I can get married in ANY state
I will blend in when... I can adopt from ANY agency
I will blend in when... the words homo- and heterosexual become taboo
I will blend in when... everyone works together to fight against AIDS
I will blend in when... I can serve freely in the military
I will blend in when... I can dress and act how I wish, without judgment
I will blend in when... my family can be seen as any other family
I will blend in when... I send my children to school without fear of ridicule for having two mommies or two daddies
I will blend in when... I receive equal rights in the workplace for myself and my partner
I will blend in when... everyone can come together and focus on important issues like war, the environment, health care and global poverty
I will blend in when... my relationship is seen as normal and not immoral
I will blend in when... there's no such thing as a closet
I will blend in when... pride parades become an all-encompassing celebration of diversity
I will blend in when... people can look at each other as just a person, and not a result of their gender or how they identify
I will blend in when... everyone can look at everyone else as their equal
When will you blend in?