By Senior Consulting Editor Lori Hahn
Hate politics? This isn’t about politics – this is about our lives and the lives of our sisters and brothers who need your help.
Prop 8, Prop 8. Why, why can’t people see that by passing the anti-gay marriage amendment in California, they are doing the very thing, that if done to them, would send them into civil unrest? How dare they?
I could say that if it passes, I’m heading for Canada. But, that would be stupid. This is MY country too. It’s the country I served in uniform. It’s the country to which I pay taxes. It’s the town in which my children attend school and I help make sure they grow up into productive, positive additions to my country’s next generation. It’s the place in which my neighborhood sits where I mow my grass, grow flowers, and feed birds. It’s the place where I volunteer my time and money to help others not as fortunate as myself.
It’s the place where on many a Sunday morning, I see fathers with little children going out for breakfast – weekend dads getting their little moment of influence in their kids’ lives. It’s the place I see police cars swoop in to haul out an abusive lay-about as the kids and wife stand in the doorway, bruised and battered emotionally and physically. It’s the place where people can wipe away any vestige of a 20-year marriage in an instant by some sort of voodoo so they can once again take Holy Communion. It’s the place where about half of the participants in a marriage cheat. It’s the place where the divorce rate is over 50%.
Obviously, those who wish to deny me an equal opportunity to enjoy the rights and responsibilities of matrimony have done a really swell job of maintaining its high standards.
So, maybe I don’t want that. It’s the kind of institution that has a pretty bad name. But, along with that supposedly holy, sanctified little construct comes tangible and important rights: probate and estate rights, tax benefits, retirement benefits, family law protections, health care options, and a myriad of other little things that should be made available to us if we choose to participate.
The bottom line is what exactly? Equity. As an adult human being in this country, I deserve each and every right granted to the rest of its citizens. Period.
Aren’t in California? Well, it’s time to get on the big lesbian roller coaster kids, because if Prop 8 does pass in California, you can kiss any chance of advancement of rights in this arena goodbye in your state for many, many years to come.
If you’ve ever sat on your ass to watch events unfold, this is not the time. Now is the time to take action. Start here: HRC No on Prop 8 and No on Prop 8
Then, make sure you vote in every single election from city council to president for the candidates who will advance our cause. Your vote DOES count. Every single one of them.
Lori Hahn is the respected author of Hahn at Home and a mother of three.