4/9/09
The Gaythering Storm
10/22/08
8 Against 8 - Day 3

And, thanks to Lesbiatopia's Renee Gannon and all our other cohorts in queerness for their continuing outreach! If you Google “8 Against 8″ you can see that this effort has spread all over the country. People who aren’t directly affected have reached into their pockets to help us defeat his discriminatory measure that ELIMINATES the right to same-sex marriage. I read a blog the other day that made me kind of mad. The blogger was saying there is apathy in our ranks. That we aren’t putting in, as a group, the real effort to effect change. That somehow we all had to be Stonewall rioters or we wouldn’t succeed. I beg to differ. We are offered, because of the Harvey Milk’s, the Stonewall rioters, and other trailblazers the ability to rally for our cause in a million different, quieter ways if we choose. But, he had a point - if we want rights, we have to want them enough to fight for them - whether it’s donating for ad dollars, writing letters to the editor, organizing protests, or whatever method we feel we can offer the most help. It’s about rights - we have no right to complain if we do nothing. If you haven’t posted about 8 Against 8 on your blog, I hope you will! A reminder too, for all of you working California voters - your employer must give you time to vote. They are also required to post a notice to that effect at your place of employment. There is NO excuse for not getting to the polls on November 4th. So do something. Donate. Share. Vote NO on Prop 8. Because that’s what it’s all about, your vote. http://www.8against8.com
Causecast has created an amazingly inspirational video in support of No on PROP 8 based on Harvey Milk's "You Cannot Live On Hope Alone" speech.
10/21/08
10/15/08
It's Not Too Late
10/13/08
Even the Politically Quiet Are Getting Loud
This weekend, she put together her first video as a NO on Prop 8. I think it says it all.
Hahn at Home
10/11/08
National Coming Out Day
When I was growing up in a small city in Iowa, I knew I was different. It was indefinable, because no one ever said the word “Gay” or “Lesbian” and no one I knew was gay, or at least that’s what I thought then. I didn’t know what “it” was or what it meant. I struggled through my various phases of adolescence and experimentation and came out on the side of “normal;” a normal that was never really who I was. Things were different then—and even more different for the generations of Gays and Lesbians who had their own struggles before mine.
One day, I knew in my heart of hearts if I didn’t come out, I would surely explode into a million pieces. Every facet of my life was crumbling around me because of my own fears of being who I was. The process was painful. Painful for me and painful for some of the people in my life whose range of reactions was anything from: I was duplicitous and my entire life to that point had been some sort of fraud perpetrated on them - to offering sincere concern for my well-being and future happiness, not to mention the state of my soul and where it was most assuredly going to end up.
The day I came out to my mom I felt the closest to her I ever have. I told her in person, struggling with the words, terrified of rejection, and she came out on the other side of her upbringing and beliefs to wrap her arms around me and tell me that she loved me. I’m sure she had said those words before, and I’m sure she’d hugged me at some other point in my life, but this will always be the one I remember. That hurdle leapt, I came out to others in my life one step at a time. Though I hoped I would not lose people along the way, I did. But, I’d say that my experience was pretty easy as these experiences go—it’s not that way for everyone.

Things have changed. Recently, I was told by a teen in my life that I’d be surprised how many middle-schoolers already identify as bisexual or gay—apparently, they actually talk about it and use the words we didn’t even know existed when I was young. Hell, yes, I’m surprised, I’m surprised any of them have even honed down their emotions and those hormonal urges to anything specific other than having the urge to hump anything that moves and some things that might not move.
And, while queers and perceived queers continue to be the victims of homophobic attacks and torment, Gay-Straight Alliances are popping up in schools everywhere. Now, if we could just connect the good things that are happening in schools to help all of those gay teens who will kill themselves this year because they fear facing their parents or can no longer stand the bullying, before it happens, I’d be very happy.
When a large segment of our population votes for legislation that bars gays from marrying or votes to allow discrimination against gays, they are not rejecting “what I do,” they are rejecting me, as a person, and telling me I am not equal to them. They are rejecting me, a taxpayer who does not enjoy the same tax benefits or property succession rights, yet helps support the myriad of welfare programs that benefit those left in poverty because of heterosexual divorce and unchecked heterosexual breeding. They are rejecting me, the human being, by denying me the opportunity to create a legal and protected relationship with a lifemate of my choice. That pisses me off.
This is the bottom line: Being gay is not what I do; it’s who I am—to the core of my being. It’s not detachable nor is it disposable. You can’t legislate it away or banish it to Hell. Finding “the right man” won’t work, it’s been tried. It can’t be cured and no amount of prayer will change it. You can’t wash it down the drain and you sure as Hell can’t put it back in the closet!
Every person who walks out of that closet has family, friends, neighbors, teachers, employers, and colleagues who have the potential to change their mind on gay issues to one in our favor once they actually know/love/respect a gay person themselves. We fear what we do not understand. Put a face on their fear, so their fear no longer makes sense. Have your voice heard, help make us stronger—come out, come out, wherever you are!
HRC has a number of tips available on their website to guide those who do choose to take the day to come out.
And from Sinnerviewer, here's a great video and some National Coming Out Day resources. Enjoy!
For more info on National Coming Out Day, click HERE.
If you did or plan to come out to someone today, even if you are already openly gay, please leave comments and let us know about your experience.
Hahn at Home
10/2/08
Richard Peterson Doesn't Scare Me - NO on Prop 8

I had a comment from JC on my blog this morning about where we can write concerning the Right Wing’s latest advertising assault for their attempt at continued discriminating through its Prop 8 here in
You can write to Professor Peterson, and I highly recommend you do, here: Richard.Peterson@pepperdine.edu Tell him that fair-minded people, opposed to the tyranny of fundamentalism and scare tactics. are not going to buy into his baseless assertions.
9/27/08
Sarah Silverman's Great Schlep Initiative
The Great Schlep from The Great Schlep on Vimeo.
9/25/08
Why I'm Voting Republican
9/21/08
My Goodness, These Young People Seem Awfully Normal

I look at my children and wonder - do they ever experience anything different with their friends because I'm a lesbian? So, I asked. My son said: "My friends just think you're weird, just like their parents." That seems mighty normal. My kids are also advocates of equal rights for our community. They think it's the only fair-minded thing. Out of the mouths of babes.
John McCain and Sarah Palin don't care about my family. They don't care that by continuing to oppose the fair-minded belief that our laws should guarantee the same fundamental rights and freedoms to all of its citizens on a Federal level they are hurting my family. I want to protect my family - and those kids you are about to see - well, I think they'd agree.
They can't vote, but you can. Vote NO on Prop 8 in California this November - and remind your friends and family to take a look at this video and then do the same.
Youtube by way of LesbianDad.
Hahn at Home
9/15/08
Smilin' & Dialin' for NO on Prop 8
Hey Californians,
I’ve got some news on how you can talk on the phone for a couple hours and help our community at the same time!
I was talking to some one of the Regional Field Organizers for HRC the other day, who put me in touch with our local office. One of the biggest things needed, he said, was people to man the phones. It’s easy, it’s painless, and it only takes a couple of hours.
The segment of society that is undecided on their stand on Prop 8 are the ones they want to speak with.
One of the biggest concerns for the “good guys” is that well-meaning and pro-gay marriage folks are confusing whether voting “Yes” or “No” is the right thing to do.
“Why, ‘Yes” I want gay marriage. I’m voting ‘Yes’.”
NO!
We all want to vote NO on Prop 8:
“NO! I won’t let those crazy, right-wing religious nuts determine the destiny for my brother/sister/ mother/father/neighbor/friend. I’m voting ‘NO’!”
NO ON PROP 8
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Or, if you’re in the
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9/12/08
Sassy & Splashy: No on Prop 8 Attire
Here’s a way to put an even splashier face on things as you step out into your communities every weekend between now and November:

9/10/08
Will the Lights Go Dark on the White Party in Florida?
California isn’t the only state fighting a battle for equality. Florida currently has Amendment 2 on the ballot, which will not only constitutionally define marriage as between a man and a woman, but make it illegal to grant any rights to individuals outside of that opposite-sex situation with anything considered a “marriage equivalent” such as domestic partnerships or civil unions.
Well, this can’t come as a surprise since this is the land of Jeb Bush and his national election robbing former Secretary of Chad, Katherine Harris. It’s a state full of the old school conservative rich and older snowbirds with a more conservative viewpoint. It’s also home to some of the most

Amendment 2 looks like it’s going to pass. Not good for our team. But, it’s not too late.
What can you do, you ask? Well, I’m glad you did.
1. Get your laptop out and pull up the latest voter registration guide.
2. Get registered.
3. Print out five more voter registration forms and find five people to help get registered – if they’ve already registered, get their commitment to vote NO on Amendment 2.
If they haven’t, stand by while they register and then put a stamp on the envelope if you have to and get it to the mailbox – lick that stamp for them – you remember how to lick, right? Then, ask them to register five more people. Rinse and repeat.
4. Vote. Make time. Stand in line. You’d do it for Melissa Etheridge tickets, right?
5. Report back here and let us know how it went.
You can do more – if you dare - SayNo2 and Fairness for All Families – they have lots of ideas of how you can kick some conservative, fundie, rights-denying butt in Florida.
And, more is what we need right now. Lots more. Oh, and did I mention that 9 out of 10 lesbians think it’s hot when a dyke takes some action? Oh, yeah, baby, that’s what I’m talkin’ about.
Be part of the change. Now.