Stylish Valentine's Day Gifts for Lesbians

- Style Grrl

It's always a dilemma figuring out what to get your girlfriend for Valentine's Day. My girl and I usually don't exchange gifts because we believe in making every day Valentine's Day. OK, you can say it. PUL-EASE! Yeah that's really cheesy, but that's our motto. We are always doing sweet things for each other like writing notes or cards. Valentine's Day is just one of those commercialized holidays that ends up making those who aren't in relationships feel really bad.

If you are in a relationship and you do the gift thing for V-day or if you just want to get something for someone special, I have some ideas. First I will give you some style items since that's what this posting is supposed to be about. Then I will give you some ideas that won't cost you a dime (probably best in these economic times).


1. Cufflinks. I started getting my partner these as gifts and she loves them. It adds a touch of bling to any outfit. Cufflinks.com has an awesome selection. They even have cufflinks specific to V-day.

2. Ties. I love ties. I think they look hot on women. Skinny ties work best. If your girl is up for tying one on, then check out ties.com. I particularly like their new line from Ed Hardy, tattoo artist. If she has a sense of humor, you might like this one, called "Love Kills Slowly".

3. Jewelry: What woman doesn't like jewelry? Why not get her something really unique like a necklace from Pyrhha? My partner got me one of these necklaces for my 30th birthday and it is one my most favorite things that I own. They are made of wax seals and each seal has it's own symbolic meaning. Check out the love seals for a piece that she'll brag about to her friends.

4. Undies: If you're like me and you hate walking into a Victoria Secret, then check out American Apparel. I love their line of cotton spandex jersey boy briefs. Very sexy. Get your lady friend a pair of these and you'll be sure to enjoy a proper V-day.

Now for the free stuff. OK, it may not be completely free but it will cost you less.

1. Picnic: You're probably thinking, "Are you crazy? It's the middle of winter!" I'm not talking about a picnic outdoors, silly, but one right in your living room. All you need is a blanket, a bottle of wine, cheese, baguette, maybe some olives. Put on some French jazz music and you'll transport your sweetie to a lovely garden in Paris.

2. Scavenger Hunt: No these are not just for kids. It's actually a lot of fun. Write down some clues on small pieces of paper and hide them around your house. Make the clues pertain to her or the two of you, like, "Go to the place where we like to cuddle and watch movies". Have the last clue lead to something special like a card from you or even better, you!

3. Make something: Come on you creative souls out there. I know you have it in you. When you were a kid, didn't you make things at school, bring it home, and give it to your mom? I'm sure she treasured those things much more than when you bought her a gift from a store. Your partner will feel the same way. I love when mine makes me a card. It's from the heart and way better than anything Hallmark could think of.

Those are just a few ideas to get your wheels turning. I'm sure anything you do for that special person in your life will make her happy unless she's a narcissist and nothing makes her happy. Then you should dump her and find someone who appreciates your romantic side. Because, you know you will have found your soul mate when every day does feel like Valentine's Day.

Got Glasses?

- Style Grrl

Have you seen the January cover of Vanity Fair magazine? Hot! Tina Fey is definitely one of my favorite lesbians. Oh wait, she not a lesbian?! So, why do us grrls love her so much, beside the obvious reasons? Well, I will tell you what first peaked my interest and sent my gaydar soaring. She's got the "gay glasses". You know which ones I mean. Eight years ago when I was coming out, these black plastic frame glasses were the sure fire way to pick out my "teammates" in the crowd. I even ditched my contacts and got a pair. I thought it would make me less attractive to men (cause ya know girls in glasses are never sexy..wink, wink) and help send out the bat signal to all the single ladies.


Well, the "gay glasses" are no longer just for us. Lots of straight celebrities like our girl Tina have been sporting the specs. The secret codes and stereotypes no longer stand. Without these codes,I think my gaydar is still good, almost too good (I think everyone is gay). But, some of my old tricks of the trade just don't work anymore. So what is a girl supposed to do? How are we supposed to tell if that cute librarian looking woman in the cubicle down the hall is on our team? I guess we're going to have to do something that we hate to do. We're actually going to have to walk up and talk to her! And yes, come out and ask her out!

I guess if that's too bold for you or you're married/partnered like me, then you can do what I'm doing...shopping for a new pair of hot designer glasses. I'm irked but also flattered by the fact the straight world wants to copy us. Regardless, I feel the need to start a new trend that makes the glasses cool and oh so lesbo again. The key is color. My favorite happens to be blue. A couple specs I'm considering:
Christian Dior
Vivienne Westwood

Check out alldesignerglasses.com for more ideas.

Lesbian Style: Find Your Own!

- Style Grrl

Hello lovely Lesbiatopia ladies. I am very excited to share with you my thoughts, ideas, issues, and ramblings about fashion and style.

I was at a fundraiser this weekend at a lesbian bar which prompted this commentary about dyke fashion. I observed why lesbians are constantly getting a bad rap when it comes to fashion. I don’t think it’s that we are particularly bad at picking out clothes or that we really think wearing baseball caps with down ski vests is going to get us noticed. It’s just that many of us have not yet found our own personal style.


Now I’m all about wearing whatever makes you feel most comfortable and confident. But don’t you also want to impress the cute girl sitting at the other end of the bar? I believe that if you find your personal style, you will feel comfortable and confident but won’t necessarily have to put on your old sneakers to do so.

So how do you find your personal style you ask? You try different styles out! When I was first coming out, I thought that being a lesbian meant that you had to dress “butch”. So I locked away my pencil skirts, high heels, and opted for bowling shoes and baggy pants. I thought I looked like a lesbian but did not feel confident that I would meet a hot butch woman with those clothes on. After some time of trying different styles, I went back to my femme ways and realized that I felt great. And I was getting the attention from the ladies that I wanted. The bottom line is everyone has a personal style. You just have to find it. Don’t wear what every other woman is wearing just to fit in. Be daring. Try on those skirts, pantsuits, heels, ties, whatever! Then go test it out. You’ll know you’ve found your style when you feel like a million bucks AND that hottie at the end of the bar gives you her number.